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10 Things *Not* To Say To Someone With Crohn’s

  1. “Crohn’s is psychosomatic in some countries. Not in England.”  – This is not a good thing to say, especially if you are a Doctor. To insinuate *that* after the trouble and difficulty good old Mr Crohn went through to get this extremely important breakthrough on the map, is a little bit…  cheeky. 😉
  2. “Crohn’s? Ooof that’s bad in’t it?” – Wikipedia is surprisingly accurate most of the time. Use it. 😉
  3. “Get on with it.” – I intend to, but I will reserve the right to do so within my own time-frame. We all need to objectify and dump our worries on the world, especially if like me, you live on your own. Simply saying get over it means something entirely different when a blatant attempt to objectify is taking place. It means sorry, I haven’t got time to deal with your stuff right now. My advice. Don’t say anything then. It’s quicker, and doesn’t leave the afflicted party feeling guilty for objectifying a problem that means a great deal to them. Personally I don’t recall having any “how to deal with medical news” lessons at school. N’ah mean?
  4. “That sounds like a right pain in the arse.” – It is. I get the joke, but it’s really painful. Try laughing after going to the loo and having to fill a small bowl with warm salt water to dip wet wipes into, simply to clean enough to ensure that the blood is removed thoroughly and that infection has been hopefully stemmed yet again for another day.
  5. “Don’t leave it so long to call next time.” – I’ll leave it as long as I need to. My first thought these days isn’t who I have to ring, it’s “ow.” If you ring me, brill, but if I go quiet, I’m probably trying to work out how to flush the loo without giving the game away.
  6. “Oh dear.” – This is the most stupid response ever when it is not joined together with its brother “Sorry to hear that”. – You wouldn’t believe how many people forget simple manners. Simply saying oh dear on its own is patronizing, it’s like saying “there, there”. Please don’t do it. I wouldn’t dream of saying that to you under any circumstances.
  7. “Ooooh. My step-dad’s brother’s auntie’s god-daughter has that.” – Bully for her. And? The real likelihood is that of course you know someone either with Crohn’s or with something you believe to be “like” Crohn’s. This point 7 is particularly relevant to the Kvetch diagram Ring theory pointed out later. Comfort in. Dump out.
  8. “Isn’t that like ME?” – No. Not really. Misconceptions are rife in medicine land. Patients and family and friends alike commonly misinterpret conditions and misunderstand limitations that different conditions place upon people. There’s no such thing as an expert in medicine in my opinion, there are just different people who have seen certain symptoms more often than other people, making them more experienced to recognize them. Doctors are doctors because of what they DON’T know, the most successful of which, don’t assume *anything*, so why should we?
  9. “Sounds like you could use a drink.” – Yes I probably could, but I’m not allowed. Thankfully I don’t miss it too much. If you know a mean chicken broth recipe I’ll nab that though.
  10. “Have you thought about religion?” – Yes. I’m sure they’re all pissing themselves. 😉 In all fairness this is an interesting point. Many know me NOT to be a religious person. I’m not. At all. But I’m open-minded. I don’t believe it is correct to declare that one religion holds jurisdiction over any other. All are as valid, and I believe in people believing in whatever they want to believe in. If someone believes that a prayer for me will help, then I’ll blinkin’ well take it. Whether Jehovah or Buddha or no-one shows up is irrelevant to me. The thought behind it is NOT irrelevant. It’s lovely.

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